"It's amazing what you learn about yourself when you're pushed to not leave a stone unturned"
I made the most profound discovery about myself the day before the WFF Australian Titles, displaying my best overall package meant standing on that stage with unshakable confidence.
Three weeks earlier I let my mind sabotage my success, I psyched out and I looked small on stage. That couldn't happen again..
Alone in my hotel room I wrote a letter to my 'Primary School Bully'.
"That's me on the left and my brother on the right"
This is goes out to everybody who has been bullied, or currently being bullied as an example of how adversity can be used to breed strength and success.
"A Letter to My Bully;
Dean, you’ve been more influential in my life in more ways that you will ever know.
I’m not fat anymore, in fact I’m far from it.
Thing is though, there are still times I’m caught out feeling the same way I did when you used to comment on how fat I was.
It happens in social situations outside of my comfort zone like a pub where there are more than two or three guys laughing and having a good time.
I shrivel up and go quiet, I have nothing to talk about and cannot relate in a crowd of men.
I’ve worked hard on my confidence levels, so hard sometimes it can come across as I am trying to hard or I have a chip on my shoulder.
Heck, I probably still do have a chip on my shoulder from time to time.
But, in my domain I’m king and I make sure everyone knows it.
Funny thing is, my domain is the gym.
I know right?
You call me fat for all those years and I became obsessed with my bettering my body shape.
I’ve taken it to the extreme but who hasn’t danced with the devil, am I right?
People walk around addicted to sugar, salt, fat and alcohol every day.
They drink, take drugs, get addicted to prescription medication and gambling.…
"4 weeks out from Aus Titles"
I get my fix at the gym when I get a pump, this is my addiction.
I could hold you responsible for my successful career, the bodybuilding trophies in the cabinet and my gorgeous fiancé I met through the gym. But, that would be giving you too much of the credit…
I don’t hold you responsible because you were in fact just the spark to a bigger fire inside of me to overcome and succeed.
I took your words and they fueled me to keeping putting one foot in front of the other despite every bully in the world who reminded me of you because you weren’t the first and no doubt you won’t be the last.
Whether your intention was to be part of my success remains unseen, regardless I cannot thank you enough.
From the bottom of my heart you have been an instrumental relationship in my life to which forged the man writing this letter today, his achievements and the fruits of his success.
At first you'll want to get fit or shape up but if you stick around long enough, peel back enough of the layers you'll hit that sore spot.
The part of you that really aches, that's when you realize getting into shape was never about what you looked like...
"She's everything I dream't of in a wife"
"They are everything to me"
"They motivate me to be better every day"
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